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The Best Affirmations For Your Life:
I have compiled the Top 100 Positive Affirmations you will need in your life. Simply scroll through them all and enjoy the experience!
Affirmations are positive, specific statements that can be used to re-program your thought patterns and change the way you think and feel about things. Positive affirmations help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re affirming to yourself, helping you to focus on your goals and make positive changes to your life and career.
Mahatma Ghandi has a famous quote that outlines how your beliefs shape your destiny. He is quoted as saying:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.”
The thing is, when you BE who you are and get the RESULTS you like or expected, it then REINFORCES your beliefs. Essentially, it’s a circular flow as shown in the model below.
HOW DO AFFIRMATIONS WORK?
It’s a self-perpetuating cycle.
For example, if you believe that you are good with children, you will think and feel that you are, you will then be more comfortable around children and behave better with them, you will then get better results (smiling, laughter, hugs, productivity) which in-turn reinforces your belief that you’re good with children.
It’s very similar to the confidence-competence loop that you may have heard of.
As a result, you will probably seek out opportunities to be with children more often because you know you are good with them, it makes you feel good and you get some great rewards (including psychological). It’s simply science of the brain – we tend to gravitate towards the things that we are naturally good at or get a positive reward from.
When we change our thinking and our beliefs, in turn, we will create behavioral change and improved results.
The thing is, there’s no magic pill. Changing a belief can be hard if it is well ingrained in our mind.
All of your thoughts, feelings, experiences and results throughout your whole life have led you to believe certain things to be true. With all of this “evidence” backing up your belief, no wonder changing a belief is hard!
However, there is a specific technique to saying positive affirmations that will help you get the results you desire. I’ll speak to this below under the heading of how.
HOW TO SAY AN AFFIRMATION
Simply saying the words of a positive affirmation is not going to have any significant effect on your life. You need to FEEL it. It’s about embodying what you’re saying.
It’s a hard thing to describe, but you want to physiologically get your mind and body to truly believe in the statement that you’re saying.
For example, stating “I am super confident” while internally thinking “I sound like an idiot. I don’t believe this. What am I doing?” is not going to get you anywhere. In fact, it’s going to be counter-productive.
Instead, when stating “I am super confident” you want to stand like a confident person would stand. You want to sound like a confident person would sound. You want to breathe like a confident person would breathe. You want to visualize yourself as a confident person.
See the difference? THAT’S the secret of positive affirmations.
The secret is physiologically experiencing what you want to experience. Remember, it’s a self-perpetuating cycle.
When you think and feel it, you will behave differently, you will see different results and ultimately your core beliefs will naturally be shaped over time to the point you no longer even need those positive affirmations. You simply ARE those beliefs.
Nationally 1 in 4 women experience domestic violence in their lifetime
Domestic violence is one of the primary causes of homeless for women and their children in the United States. According to the National Network to End Domestic Violence, between 22 and 57% of women and children are homeless at some point in their lives due to domestic violence.
While over 5,500 victims are served by local DV programs on a given day in California, over 1,000 service requests go unmet due to reduced funding for these programs.
Source: National Network to End Domestic Violence
Victims who leave their abusive partner multiple times due to domestic violence often experience multiple events of homelessness.